It is essential that parents make every attempt to minimize the stress that their children are exposed to during and after the divorce process. The idea behind communication counseling is to help the parents to understand the impact of arguments, negative body language and discussions about the other parent in the presence of the children. The intent is to provide communications skills that are respectful and business like, and to encourage the parents to instill in the children the sense that they are loved by both. The parents are taught to avoid instantaneous reactive responses and to develop techniques to develop thoughtful considered responses